Written September 3, 2013.
Have you seen those containers of parched, bedraggled flowers baking on the sidewalks outside of stores? Sometimes I feel a little like that.
At the beginning of summer, the flowers looked bright and fresh, ready for sunshine. And now, they just look a little shriveled and tired. I get it.
I don’t want to be dumped into the garbage after the first hard frost, but I am ready for a bit of a change.
This summer’s been a roller coaster of fun intermixed with losses in our family. It’s been so much more and so much less than what I anticipated our summer might be. It was the summer that I wrote thank you notes for memorials for my brother and laid rubber on Grandma’s driveway with the kids’ princess bike on the same day.
Traditionally, people sing “It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year” around Christmas, but right now, I think I’ll sing those words for the big yellow bus pulling into the yard on the first day of school.
I’m ready for a little more quiet, a little more routine, and a little less heat. (Yes, I realize that a school bus will not reduce the outside temperature.) I’m ready for a little less cooking. I’m ready for earlier bedtimes for kids. I’m ready for a little less free ranging and a little more order.
This year, my four-year-old will head to preschool a few mornings a week. On those mornings, I’ll have my three “big” kids, 7,6 and 4, all climbing on the bus. And that means I’ll only have my two-year-old daughter at home on those mornings.
What is the sound of one child playing? (Isn’t that how the Zen question goes?)
I really can’t even imagine it. It sounds really fun to just hang out with my little two-year-old sidekick for a little while. And it also sounds so lonely. What will she do when all of her favorite playmates climb on the bus? She’s never been the only child in the house, ever. And then as soon as I think of that, I just want to take back saying that I’m so excited for school to start again.
One of my very favorite parts of motherhood is watching the ways in which my kids interact. I love watching the games they invent together. All of a sudden, they are building a fort or a pirate ship or playing family. Then someone’s pulling someone else on a makeshift trailer behind the trike. Then it’s beauty shop time. Then they are all kitties.
And then, of course, they fight. Then they annoy each other, followed by bickering over insignificant things. They are real, live kids after all. It’s definitely not all Mary Poppins life around here, but we did have some triumphs and successes in the course of the summer:
-Potty Training #4. For the first time in seven years, diapers and pull-ups are only worn during sleep. Hallelujah.
-Growth. I love seeing how much kids grow in the summertime, except when none of the pants in their dressers fit anymore. My four-year-old son ate two eggs with cheese and a bowl of oatmeal on some mornings. I can only imagine what I’ll have to cook when they are all teenagers.
-Bountiful Tomatoes and Zucchini. The rest of the garden is a big weedy mess. It’s awful. We planted a massive garden, and then in the midst of everything, it sat unattended. Our tomatoes and zucchini are amazing, though. I’m not really sure what else is in there and still alive at this point. But hey, we have great tomatoes! And zucchini!
-Homegrown Chicken in the Freezer. For a first time project, we had great success raising chickens for meat. And by next spring, we’ll should have over 50 laying hens making eggs for us. Wow. Uh, anyone have any empty egg cartons?
-Family Time. More than anything, the best thing we did this summer is hang out with our family…a lot. Bonfires, pool time, days at the Mississippi, a trip to Jellystone, Sunday meals, sleepovers, and impromptu gatherings of all sorts filled many of our summer days. In the midst of hard times, there is safety in numbers. There is also plenty of laughter.
-Acting in a Movie. Speaking of laughter, my daughter and I have our “big” movie debut in “Cinderella” is coming up soon! “Silent Movies in the Park After Dark” is on September 14th and 15th at dusk at the city park in Lanesboro. Just to refresh your memory, ordinary locals star in these locally produced family-friendly films, and the event has free admission. Just bring a lawn chair and blanket if it’s chilly.
Happy back-to-school season, everyone! Thanks for watching out for children as you drive the roads.